students make the best teachers

Students Make the Best Teachers

It’s interesting that we can think we have answers for anyone else because we’re under the illusion we’ve figured it out for ourselves. That’s the first clue we haven’t. Puzzles can be solved, boundaries can be set, theories can be …

12 Tips to Overcome Perfectionism for Writers

I’m embarrassed to share this, but I have 65K words in a Scrivener database and 80 unseen blog post drafts collecting dust in WordPress.  Hiding is painful, yet reasonable excuses are endless. If we don’t challenge these reasons for hoarding …

Let Go of Control: A Brief Visual Meditation

Life is a practice in letting go. To immerse ourselves in the present moment, we must let go of control, and let go of stories that no longer hold true. When we practice letting go without resistance, we allow ourselves …

self-doubt

Is It Healthy Realism or Crippling Self-Doubt?

People are always saying “trust your intuition,” but how can you tell when it’s self-doubt talking and not your inner wisdom? How do you know if you have a realistic perspective or if fear is keeping you from taking risks? …

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Responsibility vs. Self-Interest

My husband thinks we should be able to take our dog to the dog park and let her run around. I’d love that, but she needs socialization training. She gets overly-excited and jumps on other dogs. She doesn’t pick up …

emotional habits

How to Stop Being So Critical of Yourself

I remember watching my adoptive mother look at herself in the mirror and say, “I look like 10 lbs. of crap in a 2 lb. bag,” with her Queens, NY accent and her hands grabbing at her belly. She regularly beat up on herself emotionally. Every time I heard her, it broke my heart. When I criticize myself now, I know it’s her voice I hear in my head.